There is never a time where someone can’t be of help and strength to you when you feel downtrodden and depressed. Sure, being alone ensures that you won’t allow anyone else in your personal space or knowing your intimate thoughts or secrets. Humans however, are intrinsically created to interact with others. You’ve said it hundreds of times, “I can do bad all by myself,” and that may be true on some levels, but having a loved one or friend to pick you up when you’re down is priceless.
Perhaps it’s apparent that you made a wrong choice, and the relationship went south quickly, but forcing yourself into isolation is simply another level of pain incited by remoteness and seclusion. Taking a sabbatical to gather yourself is one thing, isolation and complete withdrawal only thickens the plot and trick you further into thinking that no one cares about you.
Since we all know at some point in our lives that we will experience heartache and pain because of a broken relationship, it’s much easier to overcome when you have strong family and friends to uplift you. “A 3 fold cord is not easily broken”, meaning when one person is weak; the other two are strong. This can apply to any broken relationship.
God already knew that we would face troubling times, and matters of the heart that attempt to suffocate us are only effective when we isolate ourselves. The devil’s job is to get you alone; you know the “Power of Suggestion,” the thoughts that run through your mind when you are all alone; telling you no one cares or understands?
The Bible has compared the devil to wolves. Think about when wolves are most effective? Wolves prey on those who are alone, wounded, downtrodden, and discouraged. Wolves are nocturnal bullies and natural-born predators with keen senses; they also run in packs, then separate and surround their prey before they attack. Predators also go for the neck or head, and of course, spiritually so does the devil. (1 Peter 5:8- Be sober-minded, be alert. Your adversary the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion, looking for anyone he can devour) .
The devil has been compared to wolves in the bible for a good reason. The hunting for prey aligns itself with the wicked one (wolves and their appetite for destroying is similar) and night hunting is preferable; waiting for those quiet moments when the lights are out; then strategically pounces on your heart, capturing your volatile emotions.
The devil is also a social predator and selects disadvantaged prey. Those of us that have segregated ourselves from the world and are alone and exposed. That’s why there is strength in numbers and safety in the multitude of Godly Counselors and friends.
There’s something to be said about fellowship and interaction with those that are strong, loyal, and wise. It’s a breath of fresh air, and the road to recovery doesn’t appear as long when you have a praying passenger or two on your journey.
Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12 says
Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Life moves very quickly, and the faster you advance to recovery mode, the quicker your spirited purpose will reemerge!